Introducing Mersi from Workshop&…
Who is Mersi?
Resilient, quirky, creative, day dreamer fueled by double-shot coffee. Wife, cat lover, plant hoarder, chef, budding fempreneur and professional working in the construction industry. Big believer in keeping it real and being authentic.
What do you do?
9-5: Business Development Executive for SJ Higgins, a Tier 2 commercial building contractor.
Sidehustle: Co-founder of Workshop&, a skill building platform for professionals. Referred to as ‘Magic Mersi’, I do the strategy, branding and marketing for Workshop&.
Why is this work important to you?
Apart from coffee, I am fueled by empowerment.
I am a survivor who has overcome unique hardships in my life. As a migrant, I have had to tackle a lot of setbacks and challenges at an early age and developed a passion to learn, grow and be empowered.
As I reflect on my experience, I believe that my passion can help make a difference in other people’s life through encouragement, but also by equipping them with the right tools to grow and succeed. I love meeting and connecting with people and my work allows me to do that.
If I can make a positive impact on an individual, small or large, it is a great reminder of why I do what I do
Why is confidence important to you?
I think confidence is a key pillar to success. It is a mindset that is essential to growth and happiness, be it on a personal or professional level.
You need confidence to be able to say ‘yes’ to things, to be a better leader, to be able to empower and mentor others and to be able to do your job and do it well. When it comes to achieving goals, irrespective of what they are, we cannot undermine the importance of confidence.
Do you ever experience self-doubt and how do you move past it?
Always. I doubted myself to the point that I was making my decisions based on what others wanted of me, not what I wanted for myself. At one point or another, we all question whether or not we are doing enough, making enough money, or if we are going to be successful enough. You don’t leave unhealthy and toxic friendships, relationships or jobs because you don’t want to feel you are a quitter.
How do I move past self-doubt? I make a conscious effort to push through, reminding myself of the challenges I have faced in life and what I have been able to overcome and draw on that strength.
I talk to someone – my husband, a friend or colleague. When you keep your thoughts to yourself they can become exaggerated and very often become far removed from reality. Letting these thoughts out and talking to someone I trust can change my perspective and help me get past self-doubt.
What is a hurdle in your life that you have overcome?
Apart from experiencing war and being displaced twice and having to overcome many challenges, a big hurdle for me was and still is vulnerability.
I needed to learn, and still continue to do so, that it is OK to make mistakes and that one or two or 10 mistakes don’t overshadow previous successes and achievements.
When you are vulnerable, you open yourself to change, possibilities and growth.
If you need to pick yourself up how do you do this?
Shopping was a big thing, now my husband is onto me and my afterpay addiction 🙂
I keep notes of my accomplishments and battles won. When I feel down and lacking in confidence, I remind myself of the things I have done and I am proud of.
I wear red lipstick – it is a funny one I know. I don’t wear lipstick much and red is so out there, you feel exposed and vulnerable, you stand out and when you feel like s– you don’t want to stand out. So, in my psychological battle with myself, I force myself to feel in charge and use applying red lipstick as a ceremony of empowerment. Red draws people’s attention to you, your lips and the words that you say.
Also, I am so blessed to have met wonderful women through my work in the construction industry and two of these women are my #badass #girltribe Elinor and Amanda. No matter the problem, or how silly it seems, these two are always there for me, ready to shoot with the right words to help me overcome whatever challenges I am facing. Their own accomplishments and their strength, I mean they are accomplished powerhouses in their own right, and this is another source of inspiration that I am so grateful for.
What does living life confidently mean to you?
It means believing in yourself, feeling comfortable in your true-self, not succumbing to social expectations and norms that are placed upon us, wear socks and sandals and have not a care in the world! It also means knowing your true worth. Live your own life, follow your career trajectory.
Do you set goals? How?
I do, but I always try and leave space for ‘just living’.
Setting goals gives me direction and purpose, rather than wandering aimlessly. Goal setting provides a benchmark for determining whether I am succeeding.
I think about short and long term goals, choose goals that are specific and motivate me, choose goals that are actually attainable, I write them down and track them. Before setting a goal, I tell myself that it is OK if I don’t meet all of them, in the time specified and in the shape and form specified.
How do you stay on track?
Write goals down, set deadlines, make myself accountable and celebrate small achievements, although this is something I am still working on.
How do you celebrate wins?
I acknowledge them, write them down, refer to them when feeling in doubt. I reward myself by doing something I enjoy and I communicate my wins to my social network.
What are you most enjoying in life right now?
Working (and bonding) with Amanda and Elinor on Workshop& and growing through overcoming many challenges of a start-up and using these lessons learnt in life and my day job.
Any books or podcasts inspiring or motivating you right now?
I am still behind when it comes to getting into podcasts! But it is on my to-do list.
Books that I find motivating and inspiring include:
- The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin
- The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
- You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero
- The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson
I also love quotes by Rumi.
What is your next project?
I am working on re-defining success and what it means to me to be successful. Of course with that comes learning and growing in my role as BDE and growing Workshop&. I am also looking into mentoring migrant youth.
A key project for me is to let go of certain expectations and create a new definition of success by me, for me and for my life. I am sure this will start an effect of being happier and more confident.
Finally, any words of wisdom that have resonated most in your life?
Only a mediocre person is always at his best ~ W. Somerset Maugham
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