Introducing Melinda, Teacher and Writer…
Who is Melinda?
I am whimsical, ambitious and empathetic. I aim for a life of freedom and truly believe anything is possible.
What do you do?
I am passionate about teaching and writing. I teach Infants-PreK full-time and I tutor K-12 students in all subjects part-time. I write poetry and blog constantly.
Why is this work important to you?
Working with kids and blogging both allow me to help people believe in themselves and achieve their goals. Poetry comes naturally for me. I write the way I think, permitting me to produce poems that act as art, emotional expression, and a way of challenging people’s ideas.
I consider empathy to be an incredibly important skill, and I hope to teach that skill to others through both of my professions.
In addition, non-profits have a special place in my heart. My part-time tutoring position is at a home for abused and neglected children, and I only permit affiliations on my blog that give back to the community or charities.
Why is confidence important to you?
Having confidence in yourself and in the fate you create as a result drives your ability to take on opportunities. Without confidence, I could not pursue either of my career choices.
Do you ever experience self-doubt and how do you move past it?
I often experience self-doubt in relation to my ability to manage my time. No matter how carefully I plan, I still add more than I can accomplish to my to-do list and do not always finish the tasks on it due to being distracted by the quantity.
I move past this self-doubt by blocking out my to-do list except for one objective. I focus on only one and ignore all the others by literally putting black paper over the other items. I can believe in myself to complete one. If I adapt the just-this-one mindset ten times, I achieve ten tasks that day.
What is a hurdle in your life you have overcome?
I am a domestic abuse survivor. When I escaped from my abuser, I had absolutely nothing left mentally or emotionally. I was drained to the point that I lost myself. I could not afford therapy, but I used a combination of knowledge I picked up from college psychology classes and online research to be my own therapist.
In the past two years, I have become a completely different person than I was before the abuse. I am lucky that all the work I did on myself through a book of inspiration I wrote, which actually inspired the career guide freebie on my blog, paid off. What I have become is better than who I was my entire life before and during the abuse. Sometimes, suffering is a blessing in disguise.
If you need to pick yourself up how do you do this?
I refer back to the book of inspiration I wrote myself back when I was recovering from domestic abuse. I will sit on the floor in my room with a glass of wine and re-read the entire book, re-thinking and re-discovering the meanings and consequences of its contents.
What does living life confidently mean to you?
Confidence is not assuming people will like you or that society will approve of your decisions. Confidence is not caring about anyone else’s opinions involving your choices and self-care.
You are in charge of your life. You decide what you are capable of.
Never let another person or institution take that away from you.
Do you set goals? How?
I always have goals. Daily, weekly, monthly, yearly…I could not live without them! The satisfaction of holding the steering wheel of my own fate is not a feeling I would be willing to give up. Goals provide me with direction and assist me with achieving my purpose and passion in both my professional and personal life.
I keep a journal and have a list of questions I ask myself when making goals to make sure they will be obtainable and worthwhile.
How do you stay on track?
Forcing focus through blocking out tasks in my journal with a black sheet of paper helps a lot. I also listen to specific music playlists that help me focus.
How do you celebrate wins?
Going out to eat and participating in arts and crafts are my favorite ways to celebrate my achievements.
What are you most enjoying in life right now?
I am enjoying finally finding the balance between being able to make a difference in the lives of people I care about and taking care of myself. Remembering to practice self-care is a challenge, and reaching a point where I am achieving balance has been exciting.
Any books, blogs or podcasts currently inspiring you?
A poetry blog called CALIATH has been inspiring me to write more poetry lately.
What is your next challenge?
Getting my poetry manuscript published is one of my highest priorities right now.
Finally, any words of wisdom that have resonated most in your life?
“It isn’t a good feeling when u disobey your Heart. The nightmares haunt your Soul and your nerves Ripped apart“– Tupac Shakur, The Rose that Grew from Concrete.
Follow your heart and nourish your soul. A life not fully lived due to lack of confidence is wasted.
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