It is ok to fail, what matters most is that we bounce back
Do you avoid trying things for fear of failure? How does that make you feel?
I have been there. Fear of failure has held me back many times. I have avoided conversations, actions and experiences. At times it has left me feeling frustrated, incompetent and sad at my situation.
Things don’t get better unless we try.
But you know what – this past failure – a failure to even try – does not define who I am. It does not set my potential.
What sets my potential is my ability to bounce back.
I keep coming back for another try. Another try at trying. Another attempt at learning a new skill, or putting myself out there.
Bouncing back is what matters most.
The true measure of success is how many times you can bounce back from failure – Stephen Richards
Do you remember the last time you tried something for the first time and absolutely succeeded?
If you have some examples that is fantastic! However, if you can’t think of much, that is ok. Most of us don’t try and succeed first time around with no prior preparation or attempt, or lesson on the way.
People are afraid of failing. But failing is part of being innovative. It generates creativity and better ideas. The final result may be more fit for purpose because of the iterations that have gone into the process.
Instead of worrying about failure, we can learn to embrace it – and accept it as part of our experience.
When we are building our confidence, this may seem like a risky thing to do. But the greater risk is when we hold ourselves back and do not eve try, for fear of how it may turn out.
The best thing to do? Bounce. Bounce back from the fear and the avoidance. Bounce into an experience where we can learn and grow.
Success is not final, failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts – Winston Churchill
We don’t go through life. We grow through it. The best way to grow is to try and try again, and bounce back from failure.
10 Ways to Bounce Back from Failure
- Start small – try just one small thing that will get you closer to your goals. Instead of facing the whole mountain, we can focus on the path immediately in front of us. The confidence we develop from our actions builds momentum. This drives us to keep going.
- Learn from our failures – if we take time to reflect on what has occurred and why things didn’t turn out, we can improve our knowledge and skills for next time. These lessons will carry us forward as we approach the situation the next time.
- Practice affirmations – think positively about your abilities. Whether we think we can’t or we think we can we are generally right. Adopting a positive mindset is a tool that helps us move forward to our potential, rather than holding us back in our past.
- Reframe the situation – the failure was not your limitation. Instead, view it as part of the foundation of your skill-building experience. You are now stronger, better, faster for next time because of your experience.
- Know that your accomplishments do not define you. You are not defined by what you have done, but who you are. Do you want to be resilient and bouncy? Keep going and show yourself this is who you are.
- Be honest with yourself. Take the time to understand why you have failed. Was it because you didn’t truly give your all? When we know why we have failed, we know what we need to address going forward.
- Write your goals down. Take time to physically write your goals. When we handwrite our goals, our brain is more committed to achieving them as it recognises them as an important task.
- Recognise you are in good company. The world’s biggest and best inventions went through multiple failures before realising success. You are no different – you too are a success – if you keep bouncing back and trying again.
- Focus on what is important. What is the reason you are trying to achieve this thing in the first place? Remembering your why, your purpose, can be a motivator to keep going.
- Think about your comeback story. People love a good tale of an underdog who overcame adversity to triumph in the end. Visualise yourself telling your redemption story. In order to be able to speak it, you first have to bounce back and give it another go.
The past is not your potential. You create your potential through the choices you make.
It is time to get back out there… Choose your potential – embrace your failures – create your redemption story!